29 Habit formula, grit, and quitting

No. 29 – 23 June 2023

Welcome to the 29th edition of 4-TP, a weekly newsletter on building resilience and pushing past mental and physical boundaries.

Article

What's one habit you wished you could build tomorrow? Here's a proven habit formula.

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Quote

Marc Brackett, founder and director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, on the pursuit of happiness:

“Paradoxical to what we’ve been taught, the constant pursuit of happiness can be self-defeating. Accumulating research shows that the more we value happiness, the more likely we are to feel disappointed.”

— Source: Permission to Feel​

Insight

We often confuse grit with resilience. Grit is what Angela Duckworth calls passion + perseverance. Gritty people, despite their best efforts, get frustrated, stuck, overwhelmed, and quit. That’s where resilience comes in.

Resilience is psychological endurance. It’s managing the lows and overcoming the tough times. Resilience requires emotion skills.

Grittiness keeps you on the path to improved performance over time. Resilience makes you unstoppable regardless of the obstacle.

Question

People quit for various reasons—things get too difficult, loss of motivation, family commitments, and so on. When you end up quitting, what do you keep telling yourself?

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Till next week,
— Carlos & Stef